When to step in

Sitting here tonight I sit with a heavy heart

One of fear that something one day will happen to my child my baby I dont care how old they get they will always be our babies

As a parent it’s an ongoing cycle trying to keep our kids happy and healthy

When they are away from us it’s out of our control

Hearing stories come home of my eldest not being happy at school today didn’t sit well with me, as a boy in his class constantly is controlling his actions (at such a young age they are so impressionable) and my child being a softie can so easily succumb to peer pressure

I’ve written about bullying before and we’ve all seen the aftermath

When do we as parents get involved

My child is upset everyday, so do I reach out and talk to his teacher

Would she even know what’s going on?

Could she even care as much as I do as it’s my little boy ?

But when your child comes home with the same consistent moan about a child who he actually adores scary enough it worries me

I have a rush of feelings and emotion run over me what if ?

What will my son do or become

He’s such a follower and the thought of not having friends is worse than the one of getting in trouble or doing something you’re against

I remember I’d die for my friends and only the strong survived. I did so many things just to make people my friends like me I got used a lot too and today I have 2 true friends so it got me no where but I wasn’t ready to listen to my mom who always knew best

I don’t want this for my child

I can only talk to him and explain my history with him but it’s not the same he may take it but the will to follow might exceed

It scares me for the bigger things later on

Wow I didn’t know being a mom could be so hard

When you hear how upset someone has made your child you just want to take over but you can’t

I know I need to give him the wings to fly and the confidence to say no

I just hope and pray I do and will have done enough to keep him safe forever I know he’s going to get hurt and we have a long journey ahead it just scares me and brings tears to my eyes that I cannot do it for him

That I cannot be his voice or his feet

That I cannot be beside him or heal his broken heart

I wish someone explained a little more how hard this feeling of not being able to control his every move or action is. That someday he will leave completely and do it all himself. This feelings kills me

But I do understand that later that shall come now I can still stand beside him fight for what’s right and put any little kid in his place who tries to control my boy

Because today I’m his mom and I have the choice to let it slide or hear my child. Today I choose to listen to my son and I will step in

I will be his voice before something happens later.

Best wishes all xxxx

Being a mom is hefty work

So of course going through pregnancy our bodies change so much.

First time around I did everything right. I ate the right foods I exercised I drank water and looked after my skin. I only put on 9 kg with my son and after he was born I lost 7kg straight away and another 4 a week later. I was back even below my starting weight of pregnancy. But little did I know bout all the evil things to come by being a mom.

First when you’re breastfeeding you’re starving so you’re still eating for two not always the ideal to loosing weight.

When baby starts solids you’re constantly tasting their food is it too hot is it too cold even found myself having a few spoons.

Once they hit toddler stage it’s always nice to have a few sweet treats in the house, which in fact become you when you hit a low.

And when they don’t finish their food it’s either mom or dad who do as wasting is not an option. Eeek how do you stay trim when all this consumes your everyday.

Now second pregnancy I put on double hitting a very uncomfortable weight but I did it all wrong, my cravings were many and were sweet no wonder my daughter has such a sweet tooth. Carbs were the flavor of the day and because running after a toddler and working as well as being 8 months pregnant is not enough trust me my exercise routine and me time went out the window.

So I think to myself WHAT is my excuse now.

It’s actually sticking to something. I know what’s good to eat and what’s not but meal prep is hard work although being at home I should have no excuse except at times it can be very costly. So looking into getting healthy food packs or just learning to tell yourself NO.

Having some restraint I was so good and disciplined before I had kids. Now I end up snacking on all the wrong things. And loosing weight and staying in shape is becoming an up hill battle.

I’ve upped my exercise tried to cut down on unhealthy foods we don’t drink during the week so alcohol is not the problem. What can it be. Can it be the older I’m getting my body and hormones are just at a point of working against me.

Well I think the first thing is to make a choice and when started to stay consistent but not to be too restricted that you land up throwing it all away. It’s true what they say you are what you eat and 70% is diet and only 30% is exercise so making that choice to start and not go back needs to be a change the whole family can join in.

Cutting out sugar is going to be the first thing we do.

Sugar is a secret killer we all know that but it’s so so hard to resist.

Baby baby steps

Finding a plan that suits you and your body type is A the first step to make doing a little research also is a good thing.

Going natural and back to to basics veggies and fruit and cooking with new and exciting fresh foods and tastes.

That’s a tall order when the day is near over and the kitchen calls but a choice for the family you have to make.

Let’s see what happens when mind and body try to stay as one.

It’s def going to be a long journey but I know one that’s the best to take.

Wish us luck xxx

Encouraging your kids to succeed

There’s many types of parenting out there:

The overly protective parent where sometimes success is inhibited from our sense of fear

The over achiever parent who won’t take loosing as an option

The competitive parent who basically competes in every race their child is in and lives their dreams through their children

The compliant parent who believes taking part and having fun is all the matters

And the encouraging parent who has a happy balance between all parenting styles

I won’t lie I’m a little of many of these.

I build my kids up not to fail but not high enough that when they fall they can’t take the disappointment, I encourage them to enjoy everything they take part in, win or loose and even at times inhibit certain tasks because of my own fear.

I feel children need that positive influence wether or not they are able to win or not.

Watching my son at his gala today humbled me watching the children who hate the water and who actually can’t swim put their fears aside and finish their race. Wow what an achievement and a victory in itself.

Also very proud of my boy taking first place in his category I didn’t forget to mention to him how he should congratulate all his competitors and friends who took part.

Yes proud of himself he was as early morning brought on anxiety before even starting his gala.

Anxiety of wondering “will I win?” Will I finish?” “What if I loose?” All the questions in my sons competitive little brain. Fortunately or unfortunately he inherited his competitive nature from his father. Which I love because it makes him believe in himself and strive to push himself harder but I try balance that streak with him knowing not everyone is able as he is and being able to swim fast or be talented in a sport is a blessing and also comes with hard work and dedication.

If you want to be the best you need to act like the best, work hard and play hard. Dedication and determination is what sets you apart.

I will continue to encourage my children to aim high in all they do but if they fail that is not the end of the world that taking part and completing is also part of the game. To enjoy yourself and not to be a sore loser. To try teach them the skill of being humble and modest over arrogance.

I find that if I know it’s impossible of a task for them to achieve e.g if my daughter wanted to become a singer but I knew that was not going to happen as you’re born with this type of talent I’d never encourage something I knew was out of reach but rather get them to tap into their natural born talents and interests and strengthen those.

Positive encouragement sometimes can be the difference between a child succeeding and giving up for good. Positive reinforcement gives a child a will to achieve and to keep going.

I will try to keep this up in my home. Encouraging sports and to let their little talents shine through. If I feel either one of my kids is truly talented in something I will do everything to back them and push them to succeed and grow and of course be their number one 1 fan.

Most importantly to be the best you can be you need to be a team player too. I think it’s so important for children to be part of a team to feel success and loss in a group to know what working together is all about. So I truly encourage team sports as well as individual performance but being apart of a team is so much bigger. The skills they learn and work on are the best lessons for life they can have, as at some point in life they will have to comply and be apart of team and to understand that it’s not just them as an individual, but that by not helping those alongside you it can mean a fail for you too.

So much to look forward to and so much to guide them along. We cannot wish for them to be someone we were not or were, all we can wish for is that they try their best in all they do and most importantly I try and instill in my kids to always finish something they’ve started even if they feel like giving up.

Wishing all the best to all the moms and dads out there to set a good example to all our little competitors and to relay the message that it’s about the game not winning or loosing that counts xx

Saying no is ok

Being a parent isn’t easy,

Wanting to do right by your kids is all you want. To make them happy, keep them stimulated, healthy and thriving.

Part of all of this is actually not being their friend.

I feel the more I am friends with my children the line between friend and authority/ parent becomes blurred.

And the harder the word no is to use.

I actually got to a place where they wouldn’t take no for an answer as if it were foreign coming out of my mouth but extremely fluent coming from them.

I’ve had to put many strategies into place and stay consistent with them to break the habit of the tables turning.

Remembering that I am the parent and tough love is actually a thing.

It’s better to stand your ground say no now than to have a spoilt brat on your hands later on. But saying no over and over again can have a negative quality too and may be a word your children might just tune out. Turn no into a positive by adding no not now, or mabey Tom, or explain to your child the reason of your decision to say no. I sometimes win but adding in that explanation as if I’ve said no sugar before bed they feel like why ?? When I’ve explained that sugar is bad before bed for all the many reasons they’re able to take my decision respectively and accept what I am telling them. Another great one is no not now, not declining their request just putting a hold on it till a more appropriate time just make sure when that time is more appropriate you can either accommodate their request or have a better explanation that will satisfy their why ??

Although it’s very difficult not to spoil your kids with what you can cause as parents that’s what we feel we should be doing. It’s actually hazardous to their growth. The word no needs to be exercised and understood and also taken without a tantrum and fight. That’s why short assertive explanations can help.

My eldest is able to reason and can take the word no or take an explanation that we are just not able to do that right now. My youngest is not quite there yet.

I’ve found the more consistent I’ve been with not giving in all the time the better behaved children I have. As their expectations all round have dropped. It’s taken a lot longer with my younger more dramatic child but slowly we are getting there.

There is also such a fine line and where to say ok I’ll do it, it’s not a problem or no It’s simply just not possible now, remember to add in the reasons why this helps.

It’s easy to turn the tables on them. As the word MOM is used about a billion times a day in our household if things that I’ve asked for have not been done I too will put my duties on strike. This is something the kids hate and when this is exercised they quickly fall back into place completing what has been asked of them.

Some will call it bribery and I call it smart as it works.

Their duties will never go unnoticed I feel having a star chart with a reward at the the end also works like a charm. It’s human nature to want to succeed and see their achievements.

There’s no more trips to the toy store for nothing. My eldest is also now given pocket money each week where he is able to either spend it or save it.

If their chart reflects great behavior with the completion of duties throughout the week this is where they will receive appreciation for it. They could possibly choose a place for us to have a meal that weekend or somewhere to go or an activity we can do as a family over giving them prizes that resemble monetary and material gifts. The kids actually prefer this too.

So as hard as it sometimes to disappoint those puppy dog eyes it’s also a feeling they need to learn and understand. Life is full of disappointment and unfairness as soon as they realize that they can’t have everything their little hearts desire without a little of their own input the better they will be able to be a useful and productive part of society.

So in conclusion NO within reason and with explanation is actually our friend and not a bad word to use often.

Xxxxx warm wishes

Children are a blessing

I find when I sit back and observe my day there are so many little things during the day I wish I could pause and capture for life….

…… there are also many things I wonder why it happened that way and how can I change my reactions to certain circumstances.

Having a 6 week break with my children is probably the biggest blessing I can have at the same time 6 weeks with them not being apart and dad working throughout the holidays can be somewhat testing at times.

Parenthood is def not peaches and cream all the time. I think the key is to find balance and to find things that can stimulate the kids at home.

My son enjoys LEGO building and can build for hours on end.

My daughter loves playing in her room with her dolls and toys.

This is a blessing for me as I know they’re not stuck infront of the tv all day and they are exploring and learning all by themselves.

Spending this time with them makes me realize the next time I’ll have these 6 weeks again they’ll be a whole year older.

Time waits for no one and as challenging as some days may be it’s a blessing being alive and well enough and able to have these moments with my children.

Hope you’ve all survived the break and enjoy a new beautiful year with your blessings ❤️

Holiday time

Mostly all schools and companies retire today for the year, for some it’s not a holiday and for others it’s the only time of the year they get to relax and unwind.

For me it’s already been a week if holiday at the coast with my children and parents.

I love this time of year,

No routine

No worrying

No school

And just time to laugh, relax and enjoy one another’s company.

Many families make their way to the coast for a holiday at the beach.

For us we are lucky as my parents now live here and our holidays are a little cheaper.

Some tips for traveling with your little ones,

1.Drive at Night. The most important, helpful, and best tip I can give you is to drive at night. This is great for multiple reasons. First, your toddler can sleep the whole way and you won’t have to worry about feeding him, listening to him cry because he wants to get out, or taking him out every time you stop to get gas. We first drove through the night over Christmas last year and it completely changed our road trip. The Mister and I were able to enjoy each other’s company, Little one slept the whole way, and we only had to stop to use the bathroom and get petrol. Another good thing about driving at night is that as long as you bring some snacks, you don’t have to stop and buy a whole meal (or two). So the only times you do stop can be to fill up and then you can get back on the road quickly. Saving time and making things easy! Remember there’s no rush, o don’t suggest driving far distances at night if your eye sight is not great and you yourself have not rested. It could then be very dangerous as one of our previous road trips turned out to be from that day my husband has always now opted to fly.

2. Bring New Toys. In the chance that you can’t drive at night, or that your child wakes up, make sure you bring a new new toys to distract your little. New toys are always great for long trips because toddlers seem more keen to play with them than their toys they already have. So a new toy can help distract your toddler from the fact that he is in a car seat (and has been for several hours).

3. Put Him in Comfortable Clothes. If you are going to be driving through the night, I highly suggest just putting your toddler in some pajamas. If not, other comfy clothes (like stretchy pants and a light t-shirt) are the best thing to dress your toddler in. Car seats straps are supposed to keep them in there tight and snug, so you want to give your toddler the comfort you can by dressing them in comfy clothes. I don’t know about you but I am always in a better mood when I have comfy clothes on in the car. Why would a toddler be any different?  You pretty much want to take away all variables that can cause problems on a road trip.

4. Bring Snacks for You and Your Toddler. Before you leave, make sure you have good, healthy snacks to keep you and your toddler full and happy. My husband and I usually bring a cooler with drinks and a bag with different snacks. That way, we won’t have to buy things on the way. The key here is variety. Bring both salty and sweet things. This is true for your toddler’s snacks, too. Hopefully you can drive through the night and won’t have to worry about feeding your toddler, but you will still need to eat so make sure you have some good energizing snacks.

Stop a lot!!

Stretch!

If you’re feeling tired have your partner take over and have turns for different stretches.

Always abide by the road rules and have your children strapped in.

Make sure your tank is full and your car is road worthy for a long trip.

If you find it easier to fly with your little ones here are some tips ….

1. Understand the charges and regulations for each airline

If you’ve ever looked into flying with babies you’ll know that there are so many variations in the charges and regulations involved with taking your baby on a flight. Different airlines have different rules. Some charge for one thing; while with another it’s free.

Obviously the length of flight will also change suggestions.

2. Plan and plan some more

Blogger Vicki from online parenting magazine Honest mum’s top tip for flying with kids is be prepared-over-prepared. Vicki says: “you can never have too many wet wipes and snacks! Fill your bag with snacks, games, playing cards, a portable DVD player in case the aircraft doesn’t have one and make sure you buy water once you’re through check in. I always take extra clothes and medicine, you never know when your kids might get a temperature or feel unwell.”

3. Write notes for fellow passengers

Worried the other passengers on your flight are going to hate you if your child screams all the way from Cape to Cairo? Or, even worse, enjoys a penchant for kicking the back of the seat in front. Why not follow the example of the parents who handed out bags of sweets to fellow passengers on their flight or pen them a message of apology in advance, people with children will always understand and if you know your child battles in confined spaces mabey give them something homeopathic or herbal to help.

4. Wet wipes and Pull Ups

Cathy from mummytravels.com says: “pack some spare clothes for them and for you – even now my daughter is potty trained, I’ve kept some emergency pull-ups. And you can never have too many wet wipes! That way if there are delays or you’re in a plane that’s stuck on the runway for ages, you won’t be panicking…or spending a whole flight smelling less than fresh after an accident or unexpected illness. You almost certainly won’t need it but it makes me feel much more relaxed, and I think my daughter picks up on that too. That way flights are an exciting adventure, not a potential nightmare scenario.”

5. Keep it simple

A game can keep kids occupied and make the journey fly by – but you don’t want to be carrying lots of equipment to make it work. So keep it simple. Easy games like I-Spy are the best. 

6. Consider a backpack for hand luggage

Gretta from Mumsdotravel.com says: “my kids are teenagers now, but my top tip for flying with younger children is to have a backpack as hand luggage so that you have both hands free. That makes it easier for you to carry your child, or hold their hand, or push a buggy, or show your passports or whatever else you need to do at the airport.”

7. Hold your baby up high

Ok, so this one won’t work for everyone, but some parents have found that holding their baby above their head makes them stop crying. No scientific reason we can think of for this one working but hey, if it does the trick… Not one to do on takeoff though!

8. Pack each child a plane bag

Katie from mummydaddyandmemakesthree.co.uksays: “pack them a plane bag – We have three young children and my girls have amassed many flights between them at a young age. We always pack a plane bag for them, we don’t let them see if before we get on the flight and in it are cheap pocket money toys to keep them entertained. Things you can buy in supermarkets and that only cost a couple of rands each, like crayons, colouring books, little sets of Lego they can build and of course sweets in case all else fails! They love it and get excited to open them as soon as we are up in the air.”

9. Check the flight price for your little one

Assume your baby is flying free under 2? Double check. Oksana found she was expected to pay far more than she had imagined on one recent flight: “you may be surprised that some airlines force you to pay up to 75% for a ticket Buy a normal ticket. At least you will get extra space – that is really valuable.”

10. Check in early

If you are flying with the family, or holidaying with your extended kin (sharing a villa with your sister and her five kids perhaps?) you’ll be struggling to all sit together if you leave it late to check in. So do this online as soon as check-in it opens. Unless you don’t want to sit anywhere near your sister’s five kids, that is.

11. Tell the police

Skyscanner PR Manager and mother-of-two Mary Porter has loads of tips on flying with toddlers. Our favourite is: “warn young children of the ‘Aeroplane Police’ who are looking out for badly behaved children. I am not suggesting you scare them out of their wits (and admittedly we never did explain what the Aeroplane Police actually do when they catch a naughty child). However, it proved hugely effective in stopping my toddler climbing over seats, playing with the fold down table, kicking the seat in front and all the other things that passengers around you really love.”

12. Pre-order your baby formula

Check how much you’re allowed and make sure everything is properly sealed.

13. Be a slave to the (circadian) rhythm

If at all possible, choose flights at the ‘normal’ time your kids are meant to be falling asleep. If they’re shattered and it’s bedtime back home you might just find they’ll drop off. However, this could backfire if they’re so excited that they don’t want to sleep – tired and bratty is never a great start to a holiday.

14. Make regular toilet stops

“I don’t need to go” can quickly swing to the other end of the scale when it comes to childrens’ bladders – even the older ones. So make sure they go to the toilet immediately before getting on the plane/car. Don’t give them too many fluids either or they’ll be up and down to the toilet all the way to your destination – extremely annoying for the person in the aisle seat! This is sensible advice for adults too. Drinking five beers before getting on the plane is dangerous, especially for your bladder if you get held up boarding.

15. Play pilots

Kids scared of flying? So were Oksana Ermolaeva’s, a Skyscanner blogger for Russia who made the whole thing into a game. “I played role games with her”, she says. “Let your child be a pilot or a flight attendant. Play everything that normally happens onboard. This really helps to avoid pre-flight and in-flight panic.”

16. Arm yourself with snacks

For the ones on solid, gown-up food, make sure you pack plenty of snacks. Like an irascible cat which hasn’t had its morning Whiskas, a hungry toddler will damn sure let you know if they’re hungry. So, until the in-flight meal is served, fend them off with snacks.

Must importantly for little ones and babies make sure they are chewing or sucking on take off and landing.

The pressure in the aero plane changes quickly and can be quite sore for little ears.

Be aware

Airports are very busy and very distracting holding onto your valuables and children are very important.

I really hope everyone enjoys their holidays and have a safe sounding journey no matter how you get to your destinations.

xxx best wishes

Accepting disappointment

Being an adult it’s hard enough to accept things we cannot change or that when things change to accept them but then how do we explain this to our children.

As disappointment is a fact of life and is going to happen alot it’s important to expose our children to these these things.

Allow them to understand when you’re disappointed and also to help them understand there’s nothing wrong with feeling disappointed that life happens and tom the sun will shine again.

It’s hard to disappoint those we love or to have that feeling when something has not gone our way.

It’s also important I feel that we don’t take this away from our children so that they learn to cope when it does happen.

As we plan our lives through bookings and appointments not always are things going to do smoothly or sometimes at all.

Life is so unpredictable we need to try not plan so much and let life happen.

That’s rich coming from me as I’m a type A personality and plan every second of my day. But I feel this also is what causes my anxiety and when things don’t go according to plan it upsets us.

I’ve become a lot less stressed about planning my entire life and let things happen which has undoubtedly reduced me being disappointed by far.

It’s as well said about people and friends and people you know too.

The less you expect the less you can be disappointed and upset when things don’t follow through.

This is what I’m trying to teach my kids. Just because someone said something doesn’t mean it’s always going to happen like that. But to encourage them to stick to their word and when they promise something and to follow through.

These learning curbs can be tricky but are so needed when you’re an adult in the big bad world.

When you expect less from people and don’t expect what you give then getting hurt and let down is brought to a minimum. Learn to protect your heart and your feelings first.

Just a little thought as we head into the weekend.

Stay well xxx

Don’t sweat the small stuff

Being in go mode most of the time being a mom it’s hard not to be stressed and busy all the time.

I’ve had so much time to reflect since I’ve resigned. People ask so what is it that you are doing? And to be honest I still don’t know. I’m enjoying the extra time I can be with my children and having the time to make sure everything at home is always sorted and everyone has all they need.

Regardless of circumstances we still feel the pressure to have things done and when the children are home it’s busy.

I definitely have learnt to chill a lot with them. When accidents happen in the home or the kids are running around crazy I’ve learnt to let memories happen instead of trying to make my children into robots. I do believe there is still a time and place for everything but to look at the bigger picture and not to sweat the small stuff has become my motto.

I do believe in discipline and rules and that routine is a must, but to allow things sometimes to not always go according to plan is ok. To become more spontaneous and not to be the witch I was after a long day at work, it’s defensively changed the attitude in our home.

The day is coming I’ve got to get in control of my career but enjoying these moments now is what I’m doing.

Now we have the time in the morning to chat about our evening dreams, wake up slowly without the rush and hustle. Our mornings are smooth sailing and I often say goodbye to two happy collected kids each morning.

As having more than 1 child can be challenging at times I look at situations with a different view. My children are my blessings and yes things can get loud messy and busy when we are together but when I don’t have them or even imagine life without them I can’t. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I know there no excusing bad behaviors but instead of going crazy over the little things they do I’ve started asking them what they think their punishment if any should be. If they’ve done something they know is wrong they often will put themselves into a timeout. Good behaviors are always praised and being an example for them to follow. When I watch my children grow I cannot be more proud of the little people they are becoming.

I’ve also got to consider they are human and have good days and bad days too and we need to be just as supportive on the bad days than on the good.

Most importantly I feel it’s important to teach my kids to also not to sweat the small stuff as things are going to happen in life a lot. It’s not always going to be fair and I can’t have them falling apart every time something goes wrong or not according to plan.

This is easier said than done but baby steps I’m getting them to see the bigger picture and not to take themselves as well as life too seriously.

To enjoy every moment we are blessed enough to be with one another on this earth.

In a second your life can change forever so to be appreciative with the time we have is an important lesson trying to get across.

Most of their little moments they’ve had we look back on and laugh as this is exactly what children do.

The first time my daughter got into my make up I’ll never forget that red face smothered in Mac red lipstick how can one not laugh.

Or the first moment I realized my son was quiet for more than 5 minutes and had gotten himself into the ear buds. These are moments which have added value and memories to my life. There are the more serious moments where you have to breath and breath again and then remember exactly what you’ve preached. You’ve had to give a punishment for it but behind them you cannot contain your laughter.

Yes we are all going to have these unpredictable moments think the most important thing is to embrace them as soon enough we are going to wish they were covered from head to toe in Vaseline decorating our bathroom walls.

Enjoy these sporadic moments of parent insanity but they make for good black mail round their 21 st birthdays.

So remember embrace every moment as they are learning and exploring we cannot hamper that, and don’t sweat the small stuff.

Warm wishes all xxx

Keeping positive

Staying positive in life through the most difficult situations is what one must do.

Anxiety, stress and pressure can make you doubtful and can also cause reactions in yourself and towards others that should not be there.

Being the person you are today everyday will ensure that no matter what others say to or about you won’t change your character.

Stay true to who you are and others will feed off your positive soul one that can influence many.

A bright smile and gentle nature costs nothing but can make a big impact on all those around you.

Stay strong when the world tries to bring you down and remember when things bring you down you don’t need to sink to that level you can rise above any childishness and be the better person.

Remember who your true friends are and they know who you are so no need to justify or prove your worth to those who love you.

Each day on earth with those loved ones beside you is a blessing make it count.

Love is contagious so go spread it around.

Warm wishes all xx

Bullying is real

My post today is related to an article I read.

How bullying is real and rife and since social media become even more rife.

We’ve all had the school days where we were made fun of for some or another reason.

School for me particularly was somewhat like that. Mabey only from grade 7 did it become real that there were bullies out there but back then we may have thought it was just girls being girls??? Mabey that’s where most of my anxiety as an adult has come from. Leaving school you realize that those people who kept bringing you down do not matter and that you are in charge of your own destiny, that’s easier said until I read about bullying from such a young age of 6 and a little girl is hospitalized for anxiety from age 6 WTF????

Do we live in such a cruel world that the people who supervise these situations who are supposed to be trained to watch out for this cannot and have become part of the problem!

I taught preschool for many years and yes kids can be nasty!

But there are certain things you can teach your children to brush off and be strong and grow from.

Every child like every adult is not going to immediately get along and that’s ok. Is it wrong for us to make our children be friends with everyone ?? Especially if it’s with someone they do not like. No it’s not right but tolerance is. Yes I may not like everyone I come across but being respectful and tolerant of someone costs nothing.

I think this is what we should be teaching our children. I listen to my kids and their moans and yes if I hear the same moans day in and day out and if it’s physically and emotionally affecting my child I will step in but if its the usual “mommy he’s being ugly” or “mommy so and so doesn’t want to be my friend” I will encourage my child to be strong and find someone else to spend their time with. I will only get involved if it is physical or emotionally affecting my child.

But when I read stories of a 6 year old child being broken by those around her bullying her emotionally and no one stands up for her that makes me feel so sad that this is the world we growing in.

I feel at age 6 your life should be nothing short of happiness no stress no worries and here we have a little girl which I still consider her mommies baby being treated for emotional abuse and anxiety disorder at 6 this is just so so sad.

I pray all those involved can see where they are and recognize their faults.

I also do pray that my teachings with my own children stick and that they will always be those to protect the under dog and if are the underdog are strong enough to always communicate with me and me to make them strong to get through anything.

The world is a scary place and with the way technology is going there is so much more out there to Crush and destroy our children.

I can only pray that those affected are helped and are able to get through their situations and that my children are never apart of anything that hurts others or that they become a victim of it either.

Be good to those around you. It’s free to smile and be kind and costs nothing to be respectful and humble to those who cross your paths even those who are mean to you.

Teach our children to see the good in people and those that are different to look at them as something special not weird. To love all types big,small,weird freaky,tall,short,beautiful and ugly those are only perceptions of the observer it’s important to teach our children no matter what our differences; inside is what counts and is the most important.

If our youth grows learning the proper respectful ways our world will change for the better ❤️

Help those who look up to you. Be an example that they will be proud of. Stop bullying once and for all or be apart of the moment of prevention.

Warm wishes xxx