Being in go mode most of the time being a mom it’s hard not to be stressed and busy all the time.
I’ve had so much time to reflect since I’ve resigned. People ask so what is it that you are doing? And to be honest I still don’t know. I’m enjoying the extra time I can be with my children and having the time to make sure everything at home is always sorted and everyone has all they need.
Regardless of circumstances we still feel the pressure to have things done and when the children are home it’s busy.
I definitely have learnt to chill a lot with them. When accidents happen in the home or the kids are running around crazy I’ve learnt to let memories happen instead of trying to make my children into robots. I do believe there is still a time and place for everything but to look at the bigger picture and not to sweat the small stuff has become my motto.
I do believe in discipline and rules and that routine is a must, but to allow things sometimes to not always go according to plan is ok. To become more spontaneous and not to be the witch I was after a long day at work, it’s defensively changed the attitude in our home.
The day is coming I’ve got to get in control of my career but enjoying these moments now is what I’m doing.
Now we have the time in the morning to chat about our evening dreams, wake up slowly without the rush and hustle. Our mornings are smooth sailing and I often say goodbye to two happy collected kids each morning.
As having more than 1 child can be challenging at times I look at situations with a different view. My children are my blessings and yes things can get loud messy and busy when we are together but when I don’t have them or even imagine life without them I can’t. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
I know there no excusing bad behaviors but instead of going crazy over the little things they do I’ve started asking them what they think their punishment if any should be. If they’ve done something they know is wrong they often will put themselves into a timeout. Good behaviors are always praised and being an example for them to follow. When I watch my children grow I cannot be more proud of the little people they are becoming.
I’ve also got to consider they are human and have good days and bad days too and we need to be just as supportive on the bad days than on the good.
Most importantly I feel it’s important to teach my kids to also not to sweat the small stuff as things are going to happen in life a lot. It’s not always going to be fair and I can’t have them falling apart every time something goes wrong or not according to plan.
This is easier said than done but baby steps I’m getting them to see the bigger picture and not to take themselves as well as life too seriously.
To enjoy every moment we are blessed enough to be with one another on this earth.
In a second your life can change forever so to be appreciative with the time we have is an important lesson trying to get across.
Most of their little moments they’ve had we look back on and laugh as this is exactly what children do.
The first time my daughter got into my make up I’ll never forget that red face smothered in Mac red lipstick how can one not laugh.
Or the first moment I realized my son was quiet for more than 5 minutes and had gotten himself into the ear buds. These are moments which have added value and memories to my life. There are the more serious moments where you have to breath and breath again and then remember exactly what you’ve preached. You’ve had to give a punishment for it but behind them you cannot contain your laughter.
Yes we are all going to have these unpredictable moments think the most important thing is to embrace them as soon enough we are going to wish they were covered from head to toe in Vaseline decorating our bathroom walls.
Enjoy these sporadic moments of parent insanity but they make for good black mail round their 21 st birthdays.
So remember embrace every moment as they are learning and exploring we cannot hamper that, and don’t sweat the small stuff.
Warm wishes all xxx