Accepting disappointment

Being an adult it’s hard enough to accept things we cannot change or that when things change to accept them but then how do we explain this to our children.

As disappointment is a fact of life and is going to happen alot it’s important to expose our children to these these things.

Allow them to understand when you’re disappointed and also to help them understand there’s nothing wrong with feeling disappointed that life happens and tom the sun will shine again.

It’s hard to disappoint those we love or to have that feeling when something has not gone our way.

It’s also important I feel that we don’t take this away from our children so that they learn to cope when it does happen.

As we plan our lives through bookings and appointments not always are things going to do smoothly or sometimes at all.

Life is so unpredictable we need to try not plan so much and let life happen.

That’s rich coming from me as I’m a type A personality and plan every second of my day. But I feel this also is what causes my anxiety and when things don’t go according to plan it upsets us.

I’ve become a lot less stressed about planning my entire life and let things happen which has undoubtedly reduced me being disappointed by far.

It’s as well said about people and friends and people you know too.

The less you expect the less you can be disappointed and upset when things don’t follow through.

This is what I’m trying to teach my kids. Just because someone said something doesn’t mean it’s always going to happen like that. But to encourage them to stick to their word and when they promise something and to follow through.

These learning curbs can be tricky but are so needed when you’re an adult in the big bad world.

When you expect less from people and don’t expect what you give then getting hurt and let down is brought to a minimum. Learn to protect your heart and your feelings first.

Just a little thought as we head into the weekend.

Stay well xxx

Don’t sweat the small stuff

Being in go mode most of the time being a mom it’s hard not to be stressed and busy all the time.

I’ve had so much time to reflect since I’ve resigned. People ask so what is it that you are doing? And to be honest I still don’t know. I’m enjoying the extra time I can be with my children and having the time to make sure everything at home is always sorted and everyone has all they need.

Regardless of circumstances we still feel the pressure to have things done and when the children are home it’s busy.

I definitely have learnt to chill a lot with them. When accidents happen in the home or the kids are running around crazy I’ve learnt to let memories happen instead of trying to make my children into robots. I do believe there is still a time and place for everything but to look at the bigger picture and not to sweat the small stuff has become my motto.

I do believe in discipline and rules and that routine is a must, but to allow things sometimes to not always go according to plan is ok. To become more spontaneous and not to be the witch I was after a long day at work, it’s defensively changed the attitude in our home.

The day is coming I’ve got to get in control of my career but enjoying these moments now is what I’m doing.

Now we have the time in the morning to chat about our evening dreams, wake up slowly without the rush and hustle. Our mornings are smooth sailing and I often say goodbye to two happy collected kids each morning.

As having more than 1 child can be challenging at times I look at situations with a different view. My children are my blessings and yes things can get loud messy and busy when we are together but when I don’t have them or even imagine life without them I can’t. I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I know there no excusing bad behaviors but instead of going crazy over the little things they do I’ve started asking them what they think their punishment if any should be. If they’ve done something they know is wrong they often will put themselves into a timeout. Good behaviors are always praised and being an example for them to follow. When I watch my children grow I cannot be more proud of the little people they are becoming.

I’ve also got to consider they are human and have good days and bad days too and we need to be just as supportive on the bad days than on the good.

Most importantly I feel it’s important to teach my kids to also not to sweat the small stuff as things are going to happen in life a lot. It’s not always going to be fair and I can’t have them falling apart every time something goes wrong or not according to plan.

This is easier said than done but baby steps I’m getting them to see the bigger picture and not to take themselves as well as life too seriously.

To enjoy every moment we are blessed enough to be with one another on this earth.

In a second your life can change forever so to be appreciative with the time we have is an important lesson trying to get across.

Most of their little moments they’ve had we look back on and laugh as this is exactly what children do.

The first time my daughter got into my make up I’ll never forget that red face smothered in Mac red lipstick how can one not laugh.

Or the first moment I realized my son was quiet for more than 5 minutes and had gotten himself into the ear buds. These are moments which have added value and memories to my life. There are the more serious moments where you have to breath and breath again and then remember exactly what you’ve preached. You’ve had to give a punishment for it but behind them you cannot contain your laughter.

Yes we are all going to have these unpredictable moments think the most important thing is to embrace them as soon enough we are going to wish they were covered from head to toe in Vaseline decorating our bathroom walls.

Enjoy these sporadic moments of parent insanity but they make for good black mail round their 21 st birthdays.

So remember embrace every moment as they are learning and exploring we cannot hamper that, and don’t sweat the small stuff.

Warm wishes all xxx

Keeping positive

Staying positive in life through the most difficult situations is what one must do.

Anxiety, stress and pressure can make you doubtful and can also cause reactions in yourself and towards others that should not be there.

Being the person you are today everyday will ensure that no matter what others say to or about you won’t change your character.

Stay true to who you are and others will feed off your positive soul one that can influence many.

A bright smile and gentle nature costs nothing but can make a big impact on all those around you.

Stay strong when the world tries to bring you down and remember when things bring you down you don’t need to sink to that level you can rise above any childishness and be the better person.

Remember who your true friends are and they know who you are so no need to justify or prove your worth to those who love you.

Each day on earth with those loved ones beside you is a blessing make it count.

Love is contagious so go spread it around.

Warm wishes all xx